Navigate dating from a place of self-worth.

Dating distress therapy

in California and New York

Dating to find your partner feels hopeless.

Dating in the modern world can be incredibly challenging. In a culture now deeply intertwined with “swiping” to meet others, dating can feel like an impossible puzzle. You might be feeling worn out, hopeless, jaded, or frustrated. After months or years of searching for your person, you may be wondering “what’s wrong” with you, as your self-worth has taken a painful hit.

Navigating the dating world feels increasingly challenging, with fears of what it could mean to be your authentic self, be vulnerable, or present your values. 

Sound like you?

Feeling hopeless in meeting a romantic partner

Constantly wondering what’s wrong with you

Jaded or disheartened about finding a partner

Uncertainty about what you want

Sadness, anxiety, and frustrating with dating

Therapy is an exploratory space to grow,

and better understand how you’re navigating the dating world and what shifts in your mindset, beliefs, and behaviors are going to lead a healthier dating life and support you in staying grounded while you move through the date world.

what we’ll work on

Addressing dating distress in therapy

Therapy with me will help you create a healthier dating mindset, so that it doesn’t feel so daunting and disheartening. The goal won’t be for you to find a partner; it will be for you to feel increased self-worth, hope, and fulfillment in the meantime of finding your partner.

We will develop a plan that includes:
- identifying and dismantling your self-limiting beliefs around dating
- teaching you about mindfulness and how to practice it, to reduce rumination and connect more deeply to life
- increasing your self-worth, so that its at the forefront at dating, replacing the anxiety and fear that comes with early dating
- clarifying what you want out of dating and in a partner
- embodying acceptance around where you are in your life journey
- examining your past dating history for lessons and ways to improve dating and relationship skills, through the lens of compassion and self-growth.

Curious about the therapy frameworks we’ll use? Learn more here.

Imagine a life where…

  • You can feel more energy, excitement and hope about dating.

  • You connect with people and activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.

  • Dating doesn’t feel completely hopeless or impossible.

  • You can embody acceptance, self-compassion, and mindfulness.

  • Your mindset around dating is healthy and centered around self-worth.

  • You become more securely attached.

Strengthen your self-worth.

FAQ

  • The short answer is not necessarily. But what therapy can do is set you up for better dating success by shifting negative patterns that are blocking you, helping you feel grounded in the process of dating, and dating from a place of clarity and high self-worth.

  • Dating and relationship history can be traumatic. It can leave deep wounds that are painful and impact how you see yourself and move through the dating world. Therapy can help address these wounds while helping you create as much fulfillment and joy as possible, while seeking your life partner.

  • While there are elements of coaching, such as practical steps to implement while dating, our focus goes deeper, to address both the present emotional stress presented with dating, as well as the underlying negative beliefs and core wounds that are unconsciously impacting you and the way you date. Our main intention is on you and creating the healthiest, most fulfilled version possible; not on finding you a long term partner.